※ 引述《Etiennie (Etiennie)》之銘言： : 不能以貌取人這是常識，但跟那些美國朋友相處的感覺是，他們在年輕的時候，很多 : 人是拿這個當重要標準之一，例如身高，例如肌肉，例如其他私人的事情，這種peer : pressure是很大的，美國高中裡面還會將人分在幾個小團體裡面，什麼nerdy, popular : people, unpopular people...只要被劃分在popular people之外的，高中生活就不 : 那樣開心了，這也可以看出為什麼男性在中學時期就猛練肌肉。 : 台灣的culture畢竟還是以學業為主，這方面壓力畢竟不那麼大。可是這在美國人的看人 : 標準裡，確實佔一部份因素，因此，也許你們覺得用外表衡量人是不正確的，但當這種 : 價值已經是被他人視為理所當然的時候，你能說他錯嗎? I don't think your observation is wrong, it's just self-conflicting. If you think it's understandable to judge people by their size/appearance, then what's wrong with judging people by their color/race? After all, none of these conditions was earned, but was simply given. Again, I don't mean your friends' or your standard is wrong. It's just one of the standards (I think we agree on that). And choosing a partner is such an intimate decision that it's hard to adjudicate right or wrong. If someone chose color over personality, or choose height over intelligence, it's his/her choice. It's her experiment, her relationship and her life. She shouldn't care what I think and I don't think she doesn't know what she wants. It's 2005 and I have graduated from high school anyway (thank god). --

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