※ 引述《Etiennie (Etiennie)》之铭言： : 不能以貌取人这是常识，但跟那些美国朋友相处的感觉是，他们在年轻的时候，很多 : 人是拿这个当重要标准之一，例如身高，例如肌肉，例如其他私人的事情，这种peer : pressure是很大的，美国高中里面还会将人分在几个小团体里面，什麽nerdy, popular : people, unpopular people...只要被划分在popular people之外的，高中生活就不 : 那样开心了，这也可以看出为什麽男性在中学时期就猛练肌肉。 : 台湾的culture毕竟还是以学业为主，这方面压力毕竟不那麽大。可是这在美国人的看人 : 标准里，确实占一部份因素，因此，也许你们觉得用外表衡量人是不正确的，但当这种 : 价值已经是被他人视为理所当然的时候，你能说他错吗? I don't think your observation is wrong, it's just self-conflicting. If you think it's understandable to judge people by their size/appearance, then what's wrong with judging people by their color/race? After all, none of these conditions was earned, but was simply given. Again, I don't mean your friends' or your standard is wrong. It's just one of the standards (I think we agree on that). And choosing a partner is such an intimate decision that it's hard to adjudicate right or wrong. If someone chose color over personality, or choose height over intelligence, it's his/her choice. It's her experiment, her relationship and her life. She shouldn't care what I think and I don't think she doesn't know what she wants. It's 2005 and I have graduated from high school anyway (thank god). --

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