1) After being hurt plenty of times by men you naturally have a wall up and are skeptical about any other man who comes into the picture. How do move past that and really give the new man a chance without bringing any past hurts into this new relationship? 受傷多次後心靈會築起一道高牆 會懷疑任何闖入生活的男人 如何擺脫過去所有創傷給這個男人機會? It’s important to love freely. Loving freely does not mean loving foolishly. You know it’s hard to get hurt, only to get hurt again and again. But it’s important not to give up on love. For you maybe missing out on the love of your life because of fear. Don’t let someone else’s mistake ruin who you are as a person. Move past the wall by living in the PRESENT moment. Don’t live in the past. Learn from your PAST mistakes so you do not make them in the future, but live in the PRESENT! You may meet the man of your dreams, but if he is doing something that looks familiar (shady) don’t be bind or foolish, move on, there is always other options out there for you to consider. You deserve love and if you hold back you wont get the love that you deserve. Serena 自在的戀愛是很重要的 自在的戀愛不代表自欺欺人 你知道受傷是不容易的 但卻很容易一傷再傷 但不可以因此放棄 你或許會因為對於過去的恐懼而迷失 但別讓別人的錯誤破壞了真實的你 從過去錯誤中學習使未來不再犯錯 活在當下 你或許遇見了夢中情人但他卻做了些跟過去有點類似的事情 那麼不要騙自己 你總會有其他選擇的 你值得真愛 但如果你退縮了 那麼你就不會得到你值得的愛 2) I am in a relationship and my girlfriend constantly tells me I am too controlling. She is threatening to leave me if it doesn't stop and I don't want to lose her. What steps should I take to help change this behavior? 我的女朋友說我控制慾太強 他威脅我要離開我 我該怎麼改變? Ask yourself, “why am I controlling?” “was it something that happened when I was younger that makes me feel the need to be controlling? Usually males are controlling when they are not 100% confident in themselves. Maybe they had a controlling father, and wanting to be like dad that could happen. Also not having a father also makes the male controlling because they may have felt the need to always help the family and be the leader. 問問你自己為什麼想要控制 在我年輕的時候有發生什麼使我一定要掌控嗎？ 通常男人想掌控時代表自己並非百分百自信的 如果有個控制慾強的爸爸 或許他們想像他們的爸爸一樣 如果沒有的話 或許他們覺得他們該幫助家庭或當個帶頭人 First you have to find out why you are controlling and talk with about it with your girlfriend. Than she will understand you better. Finally together you guys should talk about it and make changes slowly, but consistently. She can't expect you or anyone to change over night, but if you love her and want to be with her you need to really work on making progressive changes that will help not only your relationship, but everything else you endeavor to do. Serena 你必須先找到想掌握的原因並且跟女朋友討論這件事 他會更容易理解你 最後再談慢慢改變 他不會預期你一夜之間就改變 但如果你夠愛他 你得努力一步步改變 這不僅會幫助你的戀愛 也會幫助你未來努力的事 3) My boyfriend of three years just broke up with me. He said he was tired of making the relationship work. All of this took place after I moved to the same city as him. So, now I'm in a city where I don't know anyone for nothing. This was my first serious relationship and I need to know how do I move on from this? 我男朋友跟我交往三年但剛分手了 他說他對於維持關係累了 這件事是在我搬到他所在的地方後發生的 現在我對我所處的地方完全不熟悉 這是我第一段認真經營的關係 我該怎麼度過呢? Wow I really feel for you. This is not going to be easy. But it is in the future always important to make the best decisions for YOU. Do things that are best for you. I don’t know whether or not the move was in your best interest or not, but you should make the best of it. You are in a new city, and have a chance to meet new people and have different experiences in life. I have met people that live in one city for their whole life and they never make it out of that city, let alone the state. First you have to find the positives that go with your situation. There are always positives. Find them, and then find more. People always say things happen for a reason so maybe there is a reason you are in this new city now. Girl, let your hair down, breath, scream if necessary and make the best of this situation!! You are the bomb.com! And you better let the world know it!!!! Serena 我可以感同身受 這並不簡單 但是最重要的是做出對自己最好的選擇 我不知道之前的搬家對你是不是最好的選擇 但你只能在搬家後做到最好 你在個新地方 會認識新的人有新的經驗 我認識一些人他一輩子都在同個地方 那就別管了 你去找到一些正面的機會 人們都說事出必有因 那麼身處異鄉就是你得正面思考的原因了 親愛的 放下你的頭髮 呼吸 如果想叫的話就叫出來 讓全世界知道you are ready to rock! (我加拿大的朋友講的= =) -- --

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