1) After being hurt plenty of times by men you naturally have a wall up and are skeptical about any other man who comes into the picture. How do move past that and really give the new man a chance without bringing any past hurts into this new relationship? 受伤多次後心灵会筑起一道高墙 会怀疑任何闯入生活的男人 如何摆脱过去所有创伤给这个男人机会? It’s important to love freely. Loving freely does not mean loving foolishly. You know it’s hard to get hurt, only to get hurt again and again. But it’s important not to give up on love. For you maybe missing out on the love of your life because of fear. Don’t let someone else’s mistake ruin who you are as a person. Move past the wall by living in the PRESENT moment. Don’t live in the past. Learn from your PAST mistakes so you do not make them in the future, but live in the PRESENT! You may meet the man of your dreams, but if he is doing something that looks familiar (shady) don’t be bind or foolish, move on, there is always other options out there for you to consider. You deserve love and if you hold back you wont get the love that you deserve. Serena 自在的恋爱是很重要的 自在的恋爱不代表自欺欺人 你知道受伤是不容易的 但却很容易一伤再伤 但不可以因此放弃 你或许会因为对於过去的恐惧而迷失 但别让别人的错误破坏了真实的你 从过去错误中学习使未来不再犯错 活在当下 你或许遇见了梦中情人但他却做了些跟过去有点类似的事情 那麽不要骗自己 你总会有其他选择的 你值得真爱 但如果你退缩了 那麽你就不会得到你值得的爱 2) I am in a relationship and my girlfriend constantly tells me I am too controlling. She is threatening to leave me if it doesn't stop and I don't want to lose her. What steps should I take to help change this behavior? 我的女朋友说我控制慾太强 他威胁我要离开我 我该怎麽改变? Ask yourself, “why am I controlling?” “was it something that happened when I was younger that makes me feel the need to be controlling? Usually males are controlling when they are not 100% confident in themselves. Maybe they had a controlling father, and wanting to be like dad that could happen. Also not having a father also makes the male controlling because they may have felt the need to always help the family and be the leader. 问问你自己为什麽想要控制 在我年轻的时候有发生什麽使我一定要掌控吗？ 通常男人想掌控时代表自己并非百分百自信的 如果有个控制慾强的爸爸 或许他们想像他们的爸爸一样 如果没有的话 或许他们觉得他们该帮助家庭或当个带头人 First you have to find out why you are controlling and talk with about it with your girlfriend. Than she will understand you better. Finally together you guys should talk about it and make changes slowly, but consistently. She can't expect you or anyone to change over night, but if you love her and want to be with her you need to really work on making progressive changes that will help not only your relationship, but everything else you endeavor to do. Serena 你必须先找到想掌握的原因并且跟女朋友讨论这件事 他会更容易理解你 最後再谈慢慢改变 他不会预期你一夜之间就改变 但如果你够爱他 你得努力一步步改变 这不仅会帮助你的恋爱 也会帮助你未来努力的事 3) My boyfriend of three years just broke up with me. He said he was tired of making the relationship work. All of this took place after I moved to the same city as him. So, now I'm in a city where I don't know anyone for nothing. This was my first serious relationship and I need to know how do I move on from this? 我男朋友跟我交往三年但刚分手了 他说他对於维持关系累了 这件事是在我搬到他所在的地方後发生的 现在我对我所处的地方完全不熟悉 这是我第一段认真经营的关系 我该怎麽度过呢? Wow I really feel for you. This is not going to be easy. But it is in the future always important to make the best decisions for YOU. Do things that are best for you. I don’t know whether or not the move was in your best interest or not, but you should make the best of it. You are in a new city, and have a chance to meet new people and have different experiences in life. I have met people that live in one city for their whole life and they never make it out of that city, let alone the state. First you have to find the positives that go with your situation. There are always positives. Find them, and then find more. People always say things happen for a reason so maybe there is a reason you are in this new city now. Girl, let your hair down, breath, scream if necessary and make the best of this situation!! You are the bomb.com! And you better let the world know it!!!! Serena 我可以感同身受 这并不简单 但是最重要的是做出对自己最好的选择 我不知道之前的搬家对你是不是最好的选择 但你只能在搬家後做到最好 你在个新地方 会认识新的人有新的经验 我认识一些人他一辈子都在同个地方 那就别管了 你去找到一些正面的机会 人们都说事出必有因 那麽身处异乡就是你得正面思考的原因了 亲爱的 放下你的头发 呼吸 如果想叫的话就叫出来 让全世界知道you are ready to rock! (我加拿大的朋友讲的= =) -- --

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