你的家人或是朋友圈的人對你不太友善。 這狀況並非最近，而是以循序漸進的方式。起初，可能沒有明顯或是討厭的感覺，但隨著 時間過去會開始有不舒服的感受，接著厭惡感倍增，但你無法對此做出回應或是反駁。 把事情拉到檯面上只會讓你覺得自己像個壞人，因為這種對待的方式並不突出或顯眼。 然而，隨著時間慢慢過去，厭惡感只會有增無減。 你不一定要把這件事說出來，但可以改變過去你所做的應對模式。 心之所向即為自身標的。 註1:該對待方式屬於冷暴力，這種往往最棘手也最難解決，但換個角度想:不須遷就自己在 對方身上，意即無須隨著對方的回應起舞，做自己的主人吧~ 註2:接連好幾天的低落，若有對象倒還好，沒對象就是個死胡同呢... Someone in your family or your circle of friend has a negative way of treating you. Since this pattern is not overtly mean or nasty - but rather uncomfortably passive - aggressive - you don't always feel that there is anything you can say or do about it. You may fear that bringing the issue up will only make you look bad , simply because the treatment is so inderstated. However , over time the effects of this have built up. You don't necessarily have to speak up , but you could change your reaction to it by not responding. Since your response is the goal , this sould work. --

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