Some arguments can be productive because they can help you get to the heart of a matter, to understand what each person feels about it, and to come to a sol ution. Some arguments, however, are not just unproductive; they are damaging t o the relationship and the issue at hand. It is easier than you think to know the difference, dear Gemini. If you are on the verge of an argument with someo ne now, you must assess the issue at hand and who you are dealing with. Are th ey listening, participating, and making useful suggestions aimed at a great so lution? If not, you need to find another way to get to an answer. 有些爭論可以很有成效，因為它們可以幫助你抓住問題的核心， 了解每個人對此的感受，並且找到解決方案。 然而，有些爭論不僅沒有效果；它們危害雙方的關係和當前的議題。 親愛的雙子們，了解其中的差異比你想像得還要容易。 如果你現在即將與某人發生爭執， 你必須評價當前的議題以及你正在跟誰打交道。 當他們正在聆聽、參與、並提出有用的解決方案？ 如果沒有，您需要尋找其他方法來獲得解決方案。 Ps. 如果有誤譯請指教，謝謝 --

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