Some arguments can be productive because they can help you get to the heart of a matter, to understand what each person feels about it, and to come to a sol ution. Some arguments, however, are not just unproductive; they are damaging t o the relationship and the issue at hand. It is easier than you think to know the difference, dear Gemini. If you are on the verge of an argument with someo ne now, you must assess the issue at hand and who you are dealing with. Are th ey listening, participating, and making useful suggestions aimed at a great so lution? If not, you need to find another way to get to an answer. 有些争论可以很有成效，因为它们可以帮助你抓住问题的核心， 了解每个人对此的感受，并且找到解决方案。 然而，有些争论不仅没有效果；它们危害双方的关系和当前的议题。 亲爱的双子们，了解其中的差异比你想像得还要容易。 如果你现在即将与某人发生争执， 你必须评价当前的议题以及你正在跟谁打交道。 当他们正在聆听、参与、并提出有用的解决方案？ 如果没有，您需要寻找其他方法来获得解决方案。 Ps. 如果有误译请指教，谢谢 --

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