原谅不等於遗忘。狮子们，你很理性地明白这件事，但你可能在其他方面跟这个概念抗争。或许你很难原谅某个人，不过若你这麽做了，就能从伤人的思绪、以及沈溺於曾发生过的事件中解脱。这不表示你选择遗忘，而是代表你会克服这个经历，并让它无法再影响你的生活。在无视道歉转身离去、或决定继续紧抓怨恨不放之前，先好好想清楚。你是凌驾於此的。 ------------------------------ 原文： Forgiving is not the same thing as forgetting. Rationally, you already know this, Leo, but you may be struggling with this concept in some other dimension. You may be having a hard time forgiving someone, but when you do, it can free you from hurtful thoughts and your propensity to dwell on what happened. It does not mean you will forget - it means you will rise above the experience and stop it from having an impact on your life. Consider this before walking away from an apology or deciding to continue holding a grudge. You are above that. ------------------------------ 无视情绪或紧抓怨恨都是一种自我绑架。 让一部份的自己停滞在事件发生的那一刻。 无论是真心原谅、或者单纯接收道歉， 试着去面对，有意识地放一个句点在自己与对方之间。 接着就能乾乾净净的提笔写下新的句子:3 --

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