sorry..I know it is a bit controdictory but it is hard to explain my case in a simple word. I have a heart breaking story. All I can tell you is that... I was not attractive before beacuse I was overweight. After I sucessfully lost weight, I find boys' attitude change. I think it occurs every day in Taiwan. I do agree with you, so that I won't rush into a relationship. To better and improve myself is more important than marriage. I feel pity that I have no romantic encounter to enrich my life. I just came across those I don't have particular feeling for. Does it make clear to you? By the way, as for the word "loveship", yes...you cannot find this word in dictionary. I got this word from the novel I've read. I think it probably can describe the act or display of love. Take "friendship" for instance. Friend+ship...it is an act of showing friendliness. Thanks for your response. Ifeel much better now. ※ 引述《obiter ([欧比特] 加油 ^^)》之铭言： : Mmm... ok, so are you saying that you don't have any particular feelings for : boys? Or are you saying that you do come across boys that you like, but you : are just shy? : Whatever that case, I don't think there should be any reason to rush into a : relationship, let along marriage. I know what you mean, and it can be quite : hard with all the pressure etc. But you've just got to believe that what is : supposed to happen will happen, and if you're supposed to meet someone, you : will eventually. : I wouldn't recommend "making yourself" fall in love with someone. Or worse : yet, go out or even marry someone without having serious feelings for them. : Love is not something that you can just force. It should be natural, at : least I believe so. :) : P.S Just on a side point, is "loveship" a word?? : ※ 引述《inferetial (promising future)》之铭言： : : May I talk about my trouble here? : : Actually, my trouble is not about whether to get married or not. : : The fact is that I am troubled by my friends’ marriage affairs. : : …………… (divide) : : During Chinese New Year, I had a small class reunion. : : My previous classmates brought lots of news which are all about loveship and babies. : : Our talks are about who has got married, who has had babies, who are going to get married…..etc. : : There was one who even shared her experience of delivering her baby girl. : : I am 26 and just got my graduate degree. : : Their lives upset me for my life is quite dry or not interesting to them. : : …………. (divide) : : I keep asking myself how and where to know the right person on earth. : : Why do they get married easily? Why cannot I find the right person? : : I hardly have particular feeling or show loving concern for boys. : : No one can make my heart beat fast. : : I treat them as friends simply. : : Whenever I know they like me, I feel uncomfortable talking to them. : : I am not cold actually. : : Instead, I don’t want them to spend time on me. : : ……………..(divide) : : Will you be with the person even though you know he is not the right one in advance? : : Will you get married for sake of marriage? : : I don’t like pursuing and being pursued or playing love. : : I am extremely shy in front of boys I like. : : I have no idea of how to pursue or lure boys. : : I am a happy person and never think of marriage things : : but my friends push me to think. : : It troubles me a lot. : : The talk repeats whenever we meet and chat together. --

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