※ 引述《bobju (宝贝猪)》之铭言： : 转录源自以下网址: : http://web.caidiy.com/plate/web/papermsg.jsp?UI=tomy&CI=55&PI=325 : Discover the 90/10 Principle. : 发现了 90/10 的定律。 : It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). : 它将改变你的一生（最低限度，它将改变你对不同情况的反应）。 : What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. : 90% of life is decided by how you react. : 90/10 的定律是什麽？生命的 10% 是由你的际遇所组成，余下的 90% 则由你的 : 反应而决定。 : What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens : to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late : arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off : in traffic. : 这意味着什麽？我们无法掌握那 10% 的际遇。 我们无法阻止行程因汽车坏掉、 : 航班误点，甚或车子抛锚而延误。 : We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You : determine the other 90%. : 我们无法控制那 10% 的际遇，但余下的 90% 则不然。你可以决定余下的 90%。 : How? ……….By your reaction. : 如何？ … 凭你的反应。 : You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. : Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. : 你不能控制交通灯转红，但你能够控制你的反应。别让他人愚弄你，你能够控制 : 你的反应。 : Let's use an example. : 让我们举个例子。 : You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over : a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what : just happened. : 你与你的家人吃早餐，你的女儿不小心把咖啡泼倒在你的衬衫上，这是你无法控制 : 的情况。 : What happens next will be determined by how you react. : 下一步将如何则由你的反应而定。 : You curse. : 你开始责骂。 : You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks : down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize : her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short : verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back : downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish : breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. : 你狠狠地臭骂女儿一顿，令她陷於痛苦之中。然後你又把怨气发泄在太太身上 : ，责难她把咖啡放在桌边。接踵而来的是一场短暂的骂战。你生气地上楼更换你 : 的衬衫。你下楼，然後发现你的女儿正哭着吃早餐并赶着回校。结果，她错过了 : 巴士。 : Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and : drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles : an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. : 你的太太赶着上班，你匆忙开车把女儿送回学校。因为你已经迟到了，你以时速 : 四十英里在一条限速三十英里 上的道路前进。 : After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive : at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. : After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your : briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to : get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. : 你付了六十元道路罚款，终於抵达学校，并已迟到十五分钟。你的女儿没有跟你 : 道别便已跑进学校。你回到公司，已是九时二十分了，这时你竟然发现──你忘 : 了带公事包。这是非常糟糕的一天，而你感到你的运气每况越下，你开始渴望回 : 家。 : When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with : your spouse and daughter. : 当你下班回家，你感到你与太太及女儿的关系上出现微小裂痕。 : Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning. : 为什麽？ … 一切皆由你早上的反应而起。 : Why did you have a bad day? : 为何你会有如此糟糕的一天？ : A) Did the coffee cause it? Ａ）是咖啡所造成的吗？ : B) Did your daughter cause it? Ｂ）是你的女儿所造成的吗？ : C) Did the policeman cause it? Ｃ）是警察所造成的吗？ : D) Did you cause it? Ｄ）是你所造成的吗？ : The answer is “D". 答案是Ｄ。 : You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted : in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. : 你无法控制女儿打翻咖啡一事，但你在紧接那五秒内的反应让霉运开始发生。 : Here is what could have and should have happened. : 以下是你改写命运的结局。 : Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently : say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". : Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and : your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window : and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive : 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on : how good the day you are having. : 咖啡翻倒在你身上，你的女儿几乎要哭了，但你温柔地说：「亲爱的，这并不算 : 什麽，但你下次得小心一点了。」你拿起毛巾便上楼去。在你更衣完毕并拿起你 : 的公事包後，你下楼去，望出窗外，你看到你的孩子正在上巴士。她回头并向你 : 挥手。你早了五分钟回到公司，并亲切地与你的同事打招呼。你的上司亦对你新 : 的一天给予正面的评价。 : Notice the difference? : 看到两者的分别吗？ : Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. : 两个不同的情景，由同一个开首所引起。但结局完全两样。 : Why? : 为什麽？ : Because of how you REACTED. : 皆因你的反应而起。 : You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other : 90% was determined by your reaction. : 你或许真的无法掌控 10% 的际遇，但剩下的 90% 则可以由你的反应而定。 : Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says : something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll : off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment : affect you! : 以下有一些实践 90/10 定律的方法。如有人说起你的是非，千万别当一块 : 「海绵」，让那些攻击性的说话像水在玻璃上一般的流走。别让那些负面评价 : 缠绕着你！ : React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could : result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. : 适当的回应能够使你的生活免受破坏。一个错误的反应能够使你失去朋友、生气 : 、甚或被压力压得喘不过气来。 : How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your : temper? : Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel : fall off) : Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump : them? : 如果车子抛锚了，你会如何感想？你会生气吗？你会否猛击车上的铁链？我的一 : 个朋友就把铁链弄下来！你会怒骂吗？你的血压是否急速上升？你会否尝试去碰 : 击他们？ : WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars : ruin your drive? : 谁会在意你上班迟到了十秒？为何让车子破坏你的驾驶过程？ : Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. : 记着 90/10 的定律，别在意。 : You are told you lost your job. : 你被通知说你被辞退了。 : Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying : energy and time into finding another job. : 你为何失眠与愤怒 ? 事情总是发生了。不如用你忧心的力量及时间去找寻新工 : 作吧！ : The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. : Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no : control over what is going on. : 航班延误了，而它将影响你一整天的行程。为何将你的怒气发泄在服务员的身上 : ？她并不能阻止事情发生。 : Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get : stressed out? It will just make things worse. : 如利用你的时间学习，或认识旁边的乘客。不要愤怒，它将令你的一天变的更糟。 : Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at : the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle : is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. : 现在，你懂得了 90/10 的定律。实践它，你将会发现它的惊人效果。尝试实行它 : ，你将不会有任何损失。 90/10 的定律非常神奇，而只有很少数的人懂得运用它 : 。 : The result? : 结果呢？ : Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, : problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 : principle. : 超过百万人沈溺在痛苦、尝试、问题与心伤之中。我们必须理解并实践 90/10 的 : 定律。 : It CAN change your life!!! : 它将改变你的一生。 : Enjoy…. 愿与各位并勉！ 这是一个好故事只可惜你用错地方 这个故事教人要调适自己的反应去适应现实的论点我赞成 但是这个故事没有叫人要去做不曝光邀约， 你会套用在这里的情形，属於一种过度推论或是错误引用。 如果你的逻辑可以成立， 今天我是排放废水的工厂， 我也可以引用同样的故事，叫你们大家卡忍耐 因为你生活中10%的事情是不可能变动的， 只有调适你的反应。 所以我可以继续排放废水。 你有没有想过你今天做一件事情，都是可能有「外部性」的， 都可能会别人造成影响？ 假设你持续不曝光邀约，你影响了别人正常生活或是不受欺骗的权利， 这就像是排放废水的工厂一样是造成别人负面的外部性， 造成别人负面的负担。 今天你有何资格要求对方包容你的这种行为？ 如果你的逻辑可以成立， 这个社会早就无法无天了。 --

※ 发信站: 批踢踢实业坊(ptt.cc) ◆ From: 61.229.44.111