原文連結：http://bit.ly/keUVQD : 標題：My Life as an NBA Superstar Single Dad 我的身份是NBA超級巨星，也是個單身的老爹 : Recently awarded full custody of my kids, I now know what winning really means. 最近我從照顧我的孩子，了解到我贏得什麼意義 : by Dwyane Wade : June 05, 2011 : There are a few words that come to mind when I think about the past couple : years of my life: challenging, rewarding, transformative—they roll off the : tip of my tongue in an instant. In the span of a year my two good friends : LeBron James and Chris Bosh joined me on the Miami Heat, I struggled through : a painful, public divorce, and I became the full-time parent to my two young : sons, Zaire and Zion. 當我回想到過去婚姻生活時，有幾個詞語經常在我腦海中複習著：挑戰、回報、轉換。 去年，我兩個好友LeBron跟Bosh來到邁阿密相聚，在這個同時，我正經歷著一段離婚後的 陣痛期，而我必須扮演好兩個孩子的父職。 : I’ve had some ups and downs lately, but the memories of the unpleasant times : disappear quickly, in part because of moments like the one recently when I : was able to surprise my younger son, Zion, at his school with cupcakes for : his fourth birthday. It was the day after we’d won the Eastern Conference : finals, but that victory couldn’t compare with the huge smile on Zion’s : face at that moment. I will never forget it. Bad memories vanish each morning : when I walk into both of my sons’ bedrooms to wake them up for school—their : laughter gives me all I need to face whatever is happening in my life. Not : too long ago, due to custody issues, I wasn’t allowed to see my sons for : long periods of time, or was given the chance to see them for only a few : hours with no idea of if or when I’d see them again. I can’t describe how : trying those days were, fighting for full custody while also working as a : professional basketball player nine months of the year. I just knew I wanted : to be with my kids. 最近我也曾情緒低落，但那些記憶總是很快就雲消霧散，部分是因為最近我那個較年幼的 兒子在學校度過他4歲生日，學校老師用蛋糕(http://bit.ly/j8WUj0)為他慶生，我也感受 那份喜悅。恰巧這天也是我們贏得東區冠軍的一天，但這場勝利還是不比上見到孩子滿面 的笑容，使我難以忘懷。 每天早上當我走進孩子的房間，並叫醒他們準備上學，他們的笑靨就足以給予我這一天 所需要的能量，當然那些糟糕的壞記憶也早就忘光啦。 不久之前，因為監護權官司，我有段時間都無法去見孩子，就算是很想念他們短短幾小時 也不被允許。我無法言語那時該怎麼辦，整個賽季當中有九個月必須去面對官司，我只知 道我這麼做全是為了我的孩子。 : I was seriously motivated to be a full-time parent for my sons. My mother and : father weren’t together when I was a kid growing up in Chicago, and early on : my mother fell victim to drug abuse. At 9 years old, I moved in with my : father because my mother could no longer care for me. Looking back, I now see : so many similarities between my own childhood and that of my sons. My father : stepped in when I needed him, and that gave me the chance for a better life. : That’s what I’m doing for my boys now. 我想過要很認真看待，並積極扮演好父親的角色。 小時候我住在芝加哥，因為我媽濫用藥物而爸爸選擇離開，當時我只有9歲，我想去跟 我爸在一起，因為我媽不關心我... 回顧從前，我現在看到我孩子跟我小時後的經歷好像。當我需要他的時候，我爸適時的 給我協助與關懷，他想給我過一個美好的人生。 我爸為我付出的那些，也是我想給予我孩子們的。 : All children need their fathers, but boys especially need fathers to teach : them how to be men. I remember wanting that so badly before I went to live : with my dad. I wanted someone to teach me how to tie a tie and walk the walk, : things only a man can teach a boy. Of course, back then, I never could have : imagined being in the same situation someday with my own kids. My dad and I : bumped heads a lot—we were so alike, both of us born competitors. My older : son, Zaire, is exactly the same way. We’ll battle on the court when I’m 39 : and he’s 19. He’s 9 now, and he’s grown up with basketball. Zion could : take it or leave it, which is cool by me. 所有小孩子都需要父親，尤其是男孩子特別需要父親教導他們如何成為一個男人。 我跟爸爸住在一起之前，我非常想成為我爸那樣的男人，我希望有人能教我如何打領帶 (打理自己的穿著)，還有言行舉止(言出必行)都要像個男人，這些都是只有男人能教男 孩的事。到了今天，我也想像不到有這麼一天我也得這樣教我的孩子。我跟我爸好像， 我那個較大的兒子就像當時的我。也許有天我39歲，而我孩子19歲時，我們可能會在同 一個球場上較勁。他現在才9歲，籃球伴隨著他的成長。至於才4歲的小兒子呢，就看他 的造化囉～ : Today, I constantly tell my dad how much I appreciate what he did for me. I : think you really have to become a parent to understand what you will endure : to be there for your kids. I could say I was surprised at the criticism I : received for traveling from Miami to Chicago so often during the regular : season for my custody court cases, but nothing really surprises me anymore. I : had a duty to fight to be with my kids, and I did it. 時至今日，我時常想對我爸表達我有多麼感謝他的付出。我想你一定想過成為一個父親， 必須忍受你的孩子多少事情。我會說我很驚訝的我也在經歷這樣的感受，在球季期間我為 了出庭(監護權的司官)，必須從邁阿密跟芝加哥辛苦的頻繁往返，為了爭取這份權利我再 苦都願意忍耐。 : Thankfully, I’ve gotten a lot of support from my mother, sister, and others : in taking care of my boys and making their new living arrangements a smooth : and happy transition. Going forward, I want my sons to have a healthy : relationship with their mother, and that’s something we’re working on. I : hope to have a great relationship with her one day too, because I know how : much it meant to me to see my parents get along as time went on. 很幸運的，我獲得我媽、我姐還有所有關心我孩子的人的支持(意思是打贏官司了)，他們 幫我們安排了平穩又舒適的生活環境。我希望我孩子跟他們的媽咪仍有個良好的互動，這 還是我跟前妻還在努力要做的，我希望跟前妻還可以維持聯繫，因為我明白她也想看著孩 子的成長。 : I can’t say what we’ll do for Father’s Day, because since my sons came to : live with me about two months ago, every day has been like Father’s Day. I : just want people—men, and men of color in particular—to hear my story and : know that their children need them and that it’s their responsibility to be : there for them. We have to step up as men and do our part. There are no : excuses. 我沒辦法跟你說在父親節那天我們家會怎麼過，因為跟孩子住在一起的兩個月內，每天 就像過父親節一樣開心。我想把我的故事分享給大家，讓大家也了解到孩子需要你們的 重要性，當孩子需要你們的時候，就是你們為人父母的職責。在孩子面前我們必須表現 得像個像樣的男人，責無旁貸！ : Wade is a guard for the Miami Heat and was recently appointed by President : Obama to a new parenting program geared toward encouraging fathers to become : more involved in their children’s lives. Wade是邁阿密熱火隊的球員，最近被歐巴馬總統任命為推動「新家庭計劃」的指標人物， 為的是鼓勵各位父親們要成為愛家愛孩子的好爸爸。 --

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