How to be a better couple here are 10 steps to enjoying each other better.... 1. Be realistic about each other. Dont try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. let's face it, guys-there's only 1 pamela anderson in the world , and even she has had her implants removed !! give your girl a break and understand that her physical appearance is not going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments. and ladies, brad pitt has already been taken , so you're gonna have to do with what your guy is like !! chill out , love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye. 2. always talk things out. now guys, i know this is not your fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what ? this works with the girl. don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. learn to express yourself better so that your partner understand what you are angry about , or hurt about , or even happy about !! when you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end. 3. do stuff together. make an effort to do things together. do some sports or invlove yourself in some shared activities. something both of you enjoy or are interestedin . it could be as simple as watching movies together. or just strolling hand in hand down to town. watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 second. and guys , do given in if your girl asks for another day at window-shopping rther than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. if you are spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner , it's a warning sign that you are drifting apart!!! 4. meet each other halfway. if he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with me "the rock" print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy. there's gotta be a little giving and talking in a relationship , so learn to meet each other halfway. 5. show you love buy her flower or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5 years. it's wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. cook him a special meal , paint him a valentine's day card. knit him mini-socks he cant wear ( like for decoration purposes) buy him a packet of milk for breakfast or pack his wardrobe for him.... so he knows you can still be rmantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while. 6. respect each other. stop making jokes about her hair or skin or whatever it is you love to laugh at. ask yourself if she thinks if its funny. and if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse ! love is about respecting each other's feelins and being sensitive to each other at all times. 7. bury the past. stop bringing up the past. girl...dont bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy , i t would just make him jealous or unhappy. and guys, dont talk about the happy times that yo had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your girl feel unhappy and she might think that you saying all this because you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore. 8. sit on your jealousy. all of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship but dont translate that insecurity into jealousy. if you are gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard , and eaversropping on converstaions, you know something is wrong - with you !!! jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it . trust your partner ; love has to have trust in it. 9. keep your commitments to each other. if your partner is standing you uo all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk !! if you are in a relationship, make your partner your priority and dont disapoint them if you can help it. it's really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner and then calls to cancel it . dont make promises you cant keep. if partner start to feel that he/she is not important enough to you , you may just lose him/her. 10. be honest. honestly is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of fly ~! when we say "be honest" we mean expressing your feelings clearly not being bitingly cruel. when you are hurt , say so , and when you are angry , tell him/her without getting hysterical. if cant be honest with your exists probably isnt worth it !! sorry if any wrong words. :P --

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