Mmm... ok, so are you saying that you don't have any particular feelings for boys? Or are you saying that you do come across boys that you like, but you are just shy? Whatever that case, I don't think there should be any reason to rush into a relationship, let along marriage. I know what you mean, and it can be quite hard with all the pressure etc. But you've just got to believe that what is supposed to happen will happen, and if you're supposed to meet someone, you will eventually. I wouldn't recommend "making yourself" fall in love with someone. Or worse yet, go out or even marry someone without having serious feelings for them. Love is not something that you can just force. It should be natural, at least I believe so. :) P.S Just on a side point, is "loveship" a word?? ※ 引述《inferetial (promising future)》之銘言： : May I talk about my trouble here? : Actually, my trouble is not about whether to get married or not. : The fact is that I am troubled by my friends’ marriage affairs. : …………… (divide) : During Chinese New Year, I had a small class reunion. : My previous classmates brought lots of news which are all about loveship and babies. : Our talks are about who has got married, who has had babies, who are going to get married…..etc. : There was one who even shared her experience of delivering her baby girl. : I am 26 and just got my graduate degree. : Their lives upset me for my life is quite dry or not interesting to them. : …………. (divide) : I keep asking myself how and where to know the right person on earth. : Why do they get married easily? Why cannot I find the right person? : I hardly have particular feeling or show loving concern for boys. : No one can make my heart beat fast. : I treat them as friends simply. : Whenever I know they like me, I feel uncomfortable talking to them. : I am not cold actually. : Instead, I don’t want them to spend time on me. : ……………..(divide) : Will you be with the person even though you know he is not the right one in advance? : Will you get married for sake of marriage? : I don’t like pursuing and being pursued or playing love. : I am extremely shy in front of boys I like. : I have no idea of how to pursue or lure boys. : I am a happy person and never think of marriage things : but my friends push me to think. : It troubles me a lot. : The talk repeats whenever we meet and chat together. --

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