When we don't like someone, especially when it's because they have done harm to us either intentionally or unintentionally, we tend to look down on their achievements. We don't want the people we don't like to succeed. It's partly anger, partly vengeful thinking, and also partly self- protective. If we don't expect anything good from someone we dislike, then it validates our choice to dislike them. But when you turn that anger, vengeance, and self-protective action against yourself, it is especially harmful. You need to forgive yourself for something, Moonchild. If you do, things will improve. 當我們不喜歡某個人的時候，尤其是他們對我們做出傷害我們的事，不管他們是有意 或無心的，我們都很容易貶低他們的成就，我們不希望那種人成功，這是憤怒的一種 表現，也是一種報復思想，同時也是自我保護的一種機制。如果我們不要指望從不喜 歡的人身上得到任何好處，那你就有權不喜歡他們。可是當你點燃了怒火、報復心與 自我保護，這樣反而對自己不好，甚至是百害而無一益。你必須原諒自己所做過的某 件事，月之子，如此一來，一切才會好轉。 -- 願所有相遇都是美好而不留遺憾。 --

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