※ [本文转录自 MiamiHeat 看板 #1DxKGhB9 ] 作者: liugayo (好玩) 看板: MiamiHeat 标题: Re: [闲聊] 《NEWSWEEK》刊出Wade的投稿 时间: Tue Jun 7 05:18:32 2011 原文连结：http://bit.ly/keUVQD : 标题：My Life as an NBA Superstar Single Dad 我的身份是NBA超级巨星，也是个单身的老爹 : Recently awarded full custody of my kids, I now know what winning really means. 最近我从照顾我的孩子，了解到我赢得什麽意义 : by Dwyane Wade : June 05, 2011 : There are a few words that come to mind when I think about the past couple : years of my life: challenging, rewarding, transformative—they roll off the : tip of my tongue in an instant. In the span of a year my two good friends : LeBron James and Chris Bosh joined me on the Miami Heat, I struggled through : a painful, public divorce, and I became the full-time parent to my two young : sons, Zaire and Zion. 当我回想到过去婚姻生活时，有几个词语经常在我脑海中复习着：挑战、回报、转换。 去年，我两个好友LeBron跟Bosh来到迈阿密相聚，在这个同时，我正经历着一段离婚後的 阵痛期，而我必须扮演好两个孩子的父职。 : I’ve had some ups and downs lately, but the memories of the unpleasant times : disappear quickly, in part because of moments like the one recently when I : was able to surprise my younger son, Zion, at his school with cupcakes for : his fourth birthday. It was the day after we’d won the Eastern Conference : finals, but that victory couldn’t compare with the huge smile on Zion’s : face at that moment. I will never forget it. Bad memories vanish each morning : when I walk into both of my sons’ bedrooms to wake them up for school—their : laughter gives me all I need to face whatever is happening in my life. Not : too long ago, due to custody issues, I wasn’t allowed to see my sons for : long periods of time, or was given the chance to see them for only a few : hours with no idea of if or when I’d see them again. I can’t describe how : trying those days were, fighting for full custody while also working as a : professional basketball player nine months of the year. I just knew I wanted : to be with my kids. 最近我也曾情绪低落，但那些记忆总是很快就云消雾散，部分是因为最近我那个较年幼的 儿子在学校度过他4岁生日，学校老师用蛋糕(http://bit.ly/j8WUj0)为他庆生，我也感受 那份喜悦。恰巧这天也是我们赢得东区冠军的一天，但这场胜利还是不比上见到孩子满面 的笑容，使我难以忘怀。 每天早上当我走进孩子的房间，并叫醒他们准备上学，他们的笑靥就足以给予我这一天 所需要的能量，当然那些糟糕的坏记忆也早就忘光啦。 不久之前，因为监护权官司，我有段时间都无法去见孩子，就算是很想念他们短短几小时 也不被允许。我无法言语那时该怎麽办，整个赛季当中有九个月必须去面对官司，我只知 道我这麽做全是为了我的孩子。 : I was seriously motivated to be a full-time parent for my sons. My mother and : father weren’t together when I was a kid growing up in Chicago, and early on : my mother fell victim to drug abuse. At 9 years old, I moved in with my : father because my mother could no longer care for me. Looking back, I now see : so many similarities between my own childhood and that of my sons. My father : stepped in when I needed him, and that gave me the chance for a better life. : That’s what I’m doing for my boys now. 我想过要很认真看待，并积极扮演好父亲的角色。 小时候我住在芝加哥，因为我妈滥用药物而爸爸选择离开，当时我只有9岁，我想去跟 我爸在一起，因为我妈不关心我... 回顾从前，我现在看到我孩子跟我小时後的经历好像。当我需要他的时候，我爸适时的 给我协助与关怀，他想给我过一个美好的人生。 我爸为我付出的那些，也是我想给予我孩子们的。 : All children need their fathers, but boys especially need fathers to teach : them how to be men. I remember wanting that so badly before I went to live : with my dad. I wanted someone to teach me how to tie a tie and walk the walk, : things only a man can teach a boy. Of course, back then, I never could have : imagined being in the same situation someday with my own kids. My dad and I : bumped heads a lot—we were so alike, both of us born competitors. My older : son, Zaire, is exactly the same way. We’ll battle on the court when I’m 39 : and he’s 19. He’s 9 now, and he’s grown up with basketball. Zion could : take it or leave it, which is cool by me. 所有小孩子都需要父亲，尤其是男孩子特别需要父亲教导他们如何成为一个男人。 我跟爸爸住在一起之前，我非常想成为我爸那样的男人，我希望有人能教我如何打领带 (打理自己的穿着)，还有言行举止(言出必行)都要像个男人，这些都是只有男人能教男 孩的事。到了今天，我也想像不到有这麽一天我也得这样教我的孩子。我跟我爸好像， 我那个较大的儿子就像当时的我。也许有天我39岁，而我孩子19岁时，我们可能会在同 一个球场上较劲。他现在才9岁，篮球伴随着他的成长。至於才4岁的小儿子呢，就看他 的造化罗～ : Today, I constantly tell my dad how much I appreciate what he did for me. I : think you really have to become a parent to understand what you will endure : to be there for your kids. I could say I was surprised at the criticism I : received for traveling from Miami to Chicago so often during the regular : season for my custody court cases, but nothing really surprises me anymore. I : had a duty to fight to be with my kids, and I did it. 时至今日，我时常想对我爸表达我有多麽感谢他的付出。我想你一定想过成为一个父亲， 必须忍受你的孩子多少事情。我会说我很惊讶的我也在经历这样的感受，在球季期间我为 了出庭(监护权的司官)，必须从迈阿密跟芝加哥辛苦的频繁往返，为了争取这份权利我再 苦都愿意忍耐。 : Thankfully, I’ve gotten a lot of support from my mother, sister, and others : in taking care of my boys and making their new living arrangements a smooth : and happy transition. Going forward, I want my sons to have a healthy : relationship with their mother, and that’s something we’re working on. I : hope to have a great relationship with her one day too, because I know how : much it meant to me to see my parents get along as time went on. 很幸运的，我获得我妈、我姐还有所有关心我孩子的人的支持(意思是打赢官司了)，他们 帮我们安排了平稳又舒适的生活环境。我希望我孩子跟他们的妈咪仍有个良好的互动，这 还是我跟前妻还在努力要做的，我希望跟前妻还可以维持联系，因为我明白她也想看着孩 子的成长。 : I can’t say what we’ll do for Father’s Day, because since my sons came to : live with me about two months ago, every day has been like Father’s Day. I : just want people—men, and men of color in particular—to hear my story and : know that their children need them and that it’s their responsibility to be : there for them. We have to step up as men and do our part. There are no : excuses. 我没办法跟你说在父亲节那天我们家会怎麽过，因为跟孩子住在一起的两个月内，每天 就像过父亲节一样开心。我想把我的故事分享给大家，让大家也了解到孩子需要你们的 重要性，当孩子需要你们的时候，就是你们为人父母的职责。在孩子面前我们必须表现 得像个像样的男人，责无旁贷！ : Wade is a guard for the Miami Heat and was recently appointed by President : Obama to a new parenting program geared toward encouraging fathers to become : more involved in their children’s lives. Wade是迈阿密热火队的球员，最近被欧巴马总统任命为推动「新家庭计划」的指标人物， 为的是鼓励各位父亲们要成为爱家爱孩子的好爸爸。 --

※ 发信站: 批踢踢实业坊(ptt.cc) ◆ From: 118.170.18.188 ※ 编辑: liugayo 来自: 118.170.18.188 (06/07 05:29) -- ◢ ██◣ 干你妈的 ▅▅▅▅ ........ 唱腔太油 ◤≡◥ 加油好吗 ◤ 造型失败 ◢██◣ 比洨还油 小胖 ◤—⊙-⊙ ╯ WARGER ⊙ ⊙ ╯ 洨唬 ︷ ︷ ╯ 老师→ 皿 雨 八 老师→ ＞ 雨 八 老师→ ◤□︵□ 雨 八 ◥ ︶◤ 令 刀 ◥ ▲◤ 令 刀 Π◥ (─◤ 令 刀 ◢ ◣ ▉▂ ◢█◥◤█◣ ▉▂ ◢ ▌▌ ◣ ▉▂ --

※ 发信站: 批踢踢实业坊(ptt.cc) ◆ From: 118.167.188.249