哈哈 上个月参加完Jiro妖精声林讲座之後喜憨的状态到现在还没退 而且我很快就忝不知耻的加了妖精大人的FB (室友大人:我最喜欢你忝不知耻这点了~♥) 然後看妖精大人写的东西津津有味 这篇我看了很有感觉 想分享给大家 原出处是http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=393345328710 我有问可不可以转 他说可以 耶耶耶~~ 然後忝不知耻的加了一下中文 以上 =========================================================================== Something about Love... by Jiro Goh on Thursday, October 28, 2010 at 5:08pm Dearest Friends... 挚友们… A friend asked about Love...and so I replied as 1st person perspective... 一位朋友问到了所谓爱…而我以第一人称的视角来回答 Imagine wanting to find out why I feel sad or angry or frustration... what is it in relationship that I am looking for... what am I missing in my life? What am I afraid of? and most importantly... How can I stop experiencing pain in my life How can I stop repeating all the same old patterns same old sad ending story... how can i start creating a new life? 试着去想像，去找到为何我感到伤心、愤怒或是挫折 在一段关系中我所寻找的是什麽 在我的生命中我所思念的是什麽 我害怕的是什麽 并且，最重要的… 如何在我的生命中停止经验痛苦 如何停止重复那些相同的旧有模式 相同的悲伤完结 我要如何开始创造新的人生？ humans are afraid of intimacy Many people wears a mask and pretend to be nice 人们害怕亲密的关系 很多人带着面具 并且假装友善 When we come too close it means, we need to let go of our mask and be naked to show our true-self We need to trust the other person and more importantly, we need to learn to trust ourselves to show others our shameful side... 当我们太过靠近 那意味着我们必须脱掉自身的面具 赤裸并暴露出真实的自我 我们必须信任他人 更重要的是，我们必须学着信任并显现出自己羞耻的一面 And if we are not ready to show true-self...we create barriers We stop coming closer because the other person maybe a threat... a threat to our feelings 而倘若我们还没准备好去显露真实的自己….我们便制造阻隔 我们停止更加靠近，因为他人将可能成为威胁… 情感上的威胁 Wondering whether you will accept me for WHO I AM instead of expecting me to be someone else that you want me to be 想知道你是否会因为”我是谁”接受我 而不是因为期望我成为你所想要的那个人 If I can trust you I will come closer and show you my everything... that is if i have no fear no fear of intimacy no fear of love 如果我能信任你 我会更靠近你，并对你展现我所有的一切 也就是说，我没有恐惧 没有对亲密的恐惧 没有对爱的恐惧 If I want to have a beautiful love life, I need to start changing my emotional attitude, the way I feel about love 如果我希望有美丽的生命之爱/爱情生活，我必须开始改变对情感的态度、感受爱的方式 I need to let go of my fears and be free and not be afraid to be rejected, because i hold no expectation... 我必须放手让恐惧离开，让自己自由 不害怕被拒绝，因为我并不预设任何结果 I do not need love from outside, I have great love inside...its all to give only the love to myself last forever 我不需要从外在获得爱，我自身就拥有无尽的爱….等着给予出去 只有对自我的爱能持续到永恒 All external love are temporary just like cycles of the sun and moon no one can promise forever 所有外在的爱都是短暂的 像是太阳与月亮的周期 没有人可以承诺永远 ...and if someone promise you... That promise only lasts in the moment of now...and each moment is new Love is freedom.......not empty promises, not bind by law or marriage Love gives freely, never expects anything in return People have forgotten about their inner love, the innocent love they have infinitely when they are little children The pure love towards everyone …若是有人承诺了你 那个承诺只持续在当下的那刻…而每个当下都是新的 爱是自由……不是空泛的承诺、不受法律或婚姻的拘束 爱是自由的给予，从不期待任何的回报 人们已经忘记在内在所拥有的爱，小时候所拥有的那无穷纯真的爱 纯净并对每个人开放的爱 Do not be bind by empty love....choose to be a free person Free yourself from self-bondage and self-suffering It is not necessary... 别被空虚的爱所拘束…选择做一个自由的人 将自己从自我束缚与受苦中释放吧 那些都是不必要的… Suffering keeps you where you are, and stops you from moving forward ...but you cannot stop the power of life You will always want to grow...to feel better You have desires to fly To be free and feel love The Love you want to feel is truly not from outside The feeling of Love that you truly missed is the love for yourself not the love from someone else 苦难使你停滞，阻碍你跨步向前 …但你无法停止生命的力量 你永远是希望成长…希望感觉更好 你拥有想飞的渴望 成为自由、感受爱 你想感受的爱完全不可能由外在而来 你所深深思念的、对爱的感受 是你对你自己的爱 而不是从其他人来的 Feeling Happy, Joyous is a habit building process... Sad feeling is a habit too The more often you allow yourself to feel sadness The easier the next time you feel sadness It takes a shorter time to generate sadness in your body That is why switching to happy feelings takes alittle time It is a habit building process It can be done It is a personal choice 感受快乐吧，喜悦是由习惯进展而来的 悲伤也是一种习惯 你越是允许自己常常浸泡在悲伤的感觉中 你之後越容易感受到悲伤 在你的身体之中花在制造悲伤的时间会变得更短 这就是为什麽要转换成快乐的感觉会需要一点时间 这是一种习惯进展 而它是可以被做到的 它是个人的选择 So be nice to yourself And give yourself a GOOOOD Treat! A goood Treat of HAPPY FEELINGS! That's the best gift to your body! 所以请对自己友善 给自己很～～～好～～～的对待！ 用快乐的感觉来善待自己 那是对你身体最棒的礼物 I Love Myself For Who I Am I Accept Myself For Who I Am 我爱真实完整的自己 我接受真实完整的自己 Loveee, 喇～～啵～ jiro --

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