Are you turning to someone for advice, or are you asking that person's opinion because you want their approval? That may seem like a subtle difference on th e surface, dear Gemini, but it is huge. If you are really just looking for fee dback and opinions on something you are doing, with the goal of objectively as sessing your effort to make it as great as possible, that's a wise thing to do . But if your real goal is for that person to approve, then you need to back u p a bit. If you feel good about what you're working on, you shouldn't need any one else's endorsement. 你是否正向某个人寻求建议，或者你是询问某个人的意见因为你想要他们的认可？ 那似乎在表面看起来有点微妙的不同，亲爱的双子们， 但是它是巨大的（不同）。 如果你真的是寻求对你正在做的事情的回馈和意见， 目标是客观地评估你的努力，使其尽可能的出色， 那是明智的做法。 但是，如果你真正的目标是寻求某个人的认可（赞同）， 那麽你需要退一步。 如果你对自己所做的事情感觉良好， 你不应该寻求其他人的背书。 Ps. 如果有误译请指教，谢谢。 --

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