I think the problem with relationships nowadays is that people no longer understand what love is. Love is ephemeral, intagible, completely untouchable, merely a word used to describe a complicated concept. Complicated conceptually, but it should be practiced and approached painlessly and effortlessly. When you watch an excellent movie, when eat something delicious, when you catch the sunrise or wait for the sunset, it is these tiny seemingly inconsequential moments and experiences that accumlate and become unique and lasting memories. Everyday you look forward to making new memories with this person. It is this longing that maintains love, and those precious memories are what keeps us from straying away from love. These memories gives us a concrete idea of love, something we can grasp and hold. What love is not....it is not a business. Don't expect profit, don't expect gains, dont expect to get the same amount you put in. It is not a religion so dont expect worship or faith. You dont have to go to church every Sunday but a date every once in a while helps! Attraction is different from love. Im attracted to haagen-daaz but if i eat it everyday, i would get sick of it. It's sad but people dont change, we just get sick of seeing each other or we get used to each other. It's become too easy just to blame others for our unwillingness to work for what we want, what we aspire, what we dream for, what you call "fairy tales". The princes never had the princess handed to them on a silver platter, so why should the same be for real life? Cinderalla had to put on the glass slipper, the prince had to find her, what have we done for each other? A 30NT plate of stinky tofu from Shilin night market just doesn't cut it. It is impossible, absolutely impossible to maintain a relationship on each others looks alone. Helping to fulfill each others basic needs (food, shelter, protection, sex) is also inadequate. That is the relationship between a pet and an owner, in this case, a really big and expensive pet. It's interactions between each other's personalities that ultimately determines the "success" rate of love. That being said...the chance of you finding a good guy whose also good-looking is slim to none. Either date the ugly or ok-looking good guy, or become an elementary school teacher and re-educate kids and hope someday you can cultivate some really good people to date your own kids cause parents these days just arent doing their job. --

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