※ 引述《demonderrick (Derrick)》之铭言： : When topic goes to the girls ... : then, the "guy" is not under the consideration..(just to me maybe) : so, I didn't really talk about what a guy plays in this. : Second of all... An impression doesn't mean all are like that.. : Even most people are like that, that only means more than 50%.. (Majority) : so, when you say there are also...etc .... well.. sure..!! : Regarding to the relationship between female and male... : I don't think it is proper to use "misunderstanding" to explain the reason : why one is actually sleeping around. : Not to mention to make it sound "reasonable". : To me, what is wrong is wrong... : A person with age of 21 or above should be considered as an adult. : which should have enough of the knowledge of knowing what's to do and what not. : Although, there are reasons why it goes like that.. : but that doesn't make the wrong thing right. : BOTH FEMALE AND MALE WILL HAVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR IT !!! : I have been there for many years... : I have always offer the help to new comers. : However, I have never step into anything like that.. : Simply I didn't want to.. and I still find it right.. : So, I say, it is simply how one takes it!! : Lastly, let's more focusing on "girl part". : Sorry for taking this somehow off topic.. : Peace.. : : Nevertheless, boys just want girls become their girl-friends. : : The "free help" is not really free. : : Once some girls misunderstand some boys' attention, it's easy to let : : them have bad behavior and incorrect relationship with boys. : : Sometimes they don't know how to handle this misunderstanding, : : and just make two or more boy-friends at the same time. : : Sometimes some girls make use of this misunderstanding to love more, : : and get advantages from them as many as possible. : : It's just my opinion. I agree with both of you to some extent, but I thought I'd make a comment on this. I think it's true that some girls do "use" the boys for "free help", especially the pretty girls, who sometimes just take it all for granted, and isn't exactly thankful for what people do for them. But the interesting question is, is this particular to Taiwanese girls overseas? Or are all pretty girls like that where ever they go? It's true that they're adults, and should be responsible for their own actions. But who is it that pampered them so much that they just get used to it? Is there a rule saying that the boys must help out everytime he is asked? Is there a rule saying that he must accept all requests, no matter how unreasonable? I think, at the end of the day, it's quite impossible to isolate the discussion to 'the girl part' and 'the boy part'. You may very well disagree, but surely, girls would not be able to act like that if the boys don't do everything for them? And here's where I think a good point is made. Why are the boys so nice and helpful? Surely a lot of them do it with the hope of the girl becoming his girlfriend? I'm not saying that that's wrong. In fact, it's probably a good idea that you are nice to someone that you intend to go after. But, if he is unsuccessful, is the girl the only one to blame? Why do the pretty girls receive more help? Is that fair? When a girl arrives at a new country, and lots of boys volunteer to help her out, is it wrong to accept them, and say that she only wants to be friends? But of course, if the girl then goes on to mislead the boys, and even have multiple relationships, there I have no sympathy for her, for that is simply wrong, no matter what. --

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