作者lerudit (l'Erudit)
看板CultureShock
标题Re: [欧洲] 英国人的婚姻价值观
时间Sun Apr 16 05:18:37 2006
Hi,
I am a Taiwanese [My English does, basically, not exist, sorry].
I personally quite like British pubs, particularly local pubs in little town.
As your description, local pubs are places of social activities (right?).
I would say they are one of the major elements of the British culture.
I learnt most of my cricket knowledge from a local pub, and now like it
even more than baseball.
The pubs are still only allowed to open utill 23.00, however,
they are discussing about introduction of ban of smoking in pubs supplying food.
Even it is still allowed people to smoke insides a pub, I like the British
cigar boxes, which have more than 2/3 area of 'warnning words'.
You can put it on the table to show the big words such as 'Somking Kills' to
the guys smoking.
I think a very good manner of Britons is that they drink alcohol, but they
won't usually use peer pressure to push you take more beer pressure.
I quite dislike that the alcohol culture in Taiwan (maybe you have already
been aware of this.) Britons do respect the individuals. In Britain, you are
allowed to hang over within a pub or wherever you like. Nevertheless, you
are not allowed to show any sign of alcohol on 9 o'clock Monday morning.
If you cannot take any more alcohol, just say you cannot. Nobody will give
you any more ---- I quite like this.
Also due to this, marriage in Britain is recognised a very decision and
contract between the two involved individuals. Nobody would intervene too much
of to whom a girl/boy (not themselves) is going to marry, even their parents.
I don't think this means the parents don't concern their children; this is
because marriage is recognised a very fundamental right and freedom of
individual. This can be very different in Taiwan. Parents usually involve
very much, or even play the most important roles, in their children's marriage.
It seems to be very often that, in UK, relationships come much earlier
than a marriage. Usually, they won't go to church to get on the ring after
a couple of months after acquaintance. However, they can live toghther.
During the relationships, they would got perfect opportunities to know each
others. After a reasonable period, once a couple really decides to marry each
other, they usually have a very good reason. Suppose most of the people believe
in God, that would be a very serious situation, if you got to answer the
questions in the church and signed the constract. Such a procedure did not
exist in traditional Taiwanese culture.
It is also interesting that
during a wedding reception, the groom got to prepare a brief wedding address
to their audience. However, in Taiwan, the groom and bride may be not allowed
to say a word publicly. (I used to recognise that that was quite a pain for
Taiwanese brides in their wedding reception. They are very real humans, but got
to perform like a dolls... What for? I cannot understand.)
Above all, I would like to draw a conclusion that, Britons, generally,
spending much more time with their family rather than in pub.
Surely they would go to pub in the evening, but before this,
most of them would go home, cook and have supper with their partner and/or
family. I don't think that would be a significant number of Britons would
go straight to local pub by going home. At least, that is true that British
pubs do not usually supply food in the evening.
Similar to you, I got to do more work now. Have a nice weekend, Mate.
See you later.
※ 引述《alicefoster (就是有forever)》之铭言:
: 你好
: 我是一个英国人<我的中文不好,不好意思>
: 大部分的英国人的确很常上酒吧(应该就是PUB?)
: 因为这是我们聚会的地方 跟朋友见面通常都是在PUB
: 但是喜不喜欢就要看每一个人不一样的感觉
: 我不喜欢PUB因为我不喜欢香菸跟酒太多
: 在青少年时会很喜欢因为感觉很COOL觉得是大人的地方
: 又因为朋友都去那里就会有PEER PRESSURE应该要去才COOL
: 对婚姻
: 我已经结婚我知道很多台湾人觉得白人都只是想玩不想结婚
: 可是我的朋友都很愿意给女友承诺
: 反而是女友不容易答应
: 现在已经是一个男女都要因为婚姻而担心的社会(对想结婚的人)
: 因为不只男人也许不想 女人也不容易答应
: 我要去做事了
: 等一下回来再继续打
: BYE~
: ※ 引述《nastry (jtiolg)》之铭言:
: : 请问各位是否知道英国人对婚姻的看法为何呢
: : 对於英国人只知道
: : 英国男人下班比较喜欢往酒吧跑
: : 请问各位有什麽心得呢?
: : 谢谢罗
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※ 编辑: lerudit 来自: 81.111.56.53 (04/16 05:32)
1F:→ manger:抱歉 我认为这篇充满偏见 04/16 13:05
2F:→ manger:总有人要损一损自己的文化来表示对外国人的认同 04/16 13:06
3F:→ toomuch:我也觉得有偏见..文化不同,而且也不全然都是这样啊 太主观 04/16 15:48
4F:推 aquaespoir:嗯 我个人不喜欢这篇的说法 而且太流於个人主观了 04/16 15:51
5F:推 lerudit:Could I recommend you to watch "Pride and Prejudice"? 04/16 20:06
6F:推 newpiu:Ithink this is an informative and interesting article. 04/17 06:30
7F:推 joshualin:不好意思,这篇文章我只看到作者对英国酒吧文化和 04/18 15:39
8F:→ joshualin:家庭观念的描述,作者没说他瞧不起台湾人(还是我漏看?) 04/18 15:41