When someone is behaving in a defensive manner, the best way to bring them out of their shell is with kindness. As someone who spends a fair amount of time in their shell, dear Moonchild, you can probably understand and identify with this more than others. If you are trying to reach someone to form a closer bond or build a foundation for better communication and you are finding defensive behavior, you know just what to do. A little bit of kindness and acceptance can go a long way toward building a strong connection. Anything from a romance to a business alliance can be made better this way. 当某个人表现出自我防卫的态度，带领他走出自己的壳的最佳方式是友善与好意。当 某个人花了很多时间躲在自己的壳里，亲爱的月之子，或许你比其他人更能理解和感 同身受这件事。如果你正试着跟某个人接触，建立更亲密的情感连结，或是为一段更 好的对话打造基础，但你却发现了自我防卫的行为举止，那麽你会知道该怎麽做的， 一点点的友善和接纳可以长久地打造强而有力的情感连结，从爱情到商业结盟都可以 用这种方式而有所改善。 -- 愿所有相遇都是美好而不留遗憾。 --

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